Fighting with Fiance about Wedding
Pre-marital fights? Here's how to deal with them...
Are you engaged and over the moon? You can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with your fiance?
If the answer is yes, then you are at the right path. But, sometimes the pre-marital bliss can become a nightmare.
Many couples fight during the wedding planning process and/or even their wedding day.
This is completely normal. Every couple in the world fights!
But, it’s important to not let these arguments consume you.
We have gathered the most common reasons that couples fight about and how to overcome them.
How to Get on the Same Page about the Wedding with your Fiance
The Wedding Day
The stress of the wedding planning, the constant decision making, the family’s involvement and the long do-to lists, might add up a lot of pressure to the happy couple.
In order to stay calm and happy during your big day just focus on the two of you.
Consider what matters the most, smile and walk down the aisle light as a feather.
Money can cause many problems. But, it doesn’t have to. Especially when you have to spend them on a wedding.
First of all, every financial decision has to be discussed in order to avoid arguments.
With the right wedding budget and communication you won’t have to spend your free time fighting, but organizing the perfect wedding.
How well do you know your fiancé?
Do you know what he want for his life in 10 or 20 years?
Does he want to have children right away or wait a few years? Does he want to travel the world on a boat or climb Mt. Everest?
The answers for questions like these usually come up during the engagement period.
No matter how well you think you know your fiance, there will continue to be issues that you’ve never discussed before.
Make sure to talk about these issues and try to solve anything that may stand in your way of happiness.
Parents and Future In Laws
We all love our parents. But they are not saints!
And when it comes to weddings they want to share their opinions, or get too involved.
Of course the same thing goes for the future in laws, too.
In order to maintain your sanity, as a couple, you have to stay united and not to offend your families or each other.
Discuss any issues you have with your parents and/or his parents, in calm tone.
Keep in mind that your parents just want help you and your fiancé with your wedding.
Setting boundaries early on might save you from a lot of fights.
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A very wise saying goes: “You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends”. And it’s true.
Your friends are your family.
But, sometimes you aren’t sure why your fiance (and vice versa) is friends with these people to begin with.
They may have been fun to be around before, but every time you’ve me them, they are obnoxious and rude.
This is not an easy situation.
At the end of the day, unless there’s something that’s happened that gives you a good reason to not invite them to the wedding, you’ll probably need to suck it up.
The solution is to tolerate each other’s friends. They are in their life for a reason and you should respect that.
Let’s be real. You both dated other people before you fell in love with our fiance. That’s life.
But when the pretty neighbor he dated in college is still best friends with his sister, the plot thickens.
For some couples the past is a touchy subject and they decide not to invite any ex partners.
If either of you have a problem with an ex being at the wedding for any reason, then there shouldn’t be any discussion. They do not get an invite.
Remember this: He chose you.