Who is supposed to host the bachelorette party and bridal shower?
Who will host my bachelorette party and bridal shower?
During wedding planning, you and your fiance have to organize every detail.
From the invitations to the cake, everything gets the OK by you two.
Except one thing: the bridal shower and bachelorette party!
For one amazing night — or weekend — the Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids make sure the bride-to-be has a lovely time with her best gals.
But, sometimes there is no party for the bride, no fancy drinks, or no spa time because nobody has offered to throw one.
If no one has asked, is it proper to ask your bridal party? Who should host and who will actually pay for it?
Keep reading to get some clarity.
Will You Host?
First things first. No one is obligated to organize a bridal shower or a bachelorette party. Even if it is customary for the Maid of Honor to take charge.
But, when no one has offered to host, you might feel disappointed or have hurt feelings.
In order to avoid any conflict, you should consider there may be a surprise party in the making.
If you’re sure that there is no party on the way, then you need to gather some courage.
Ask your Maid of Honor to organize one for you.
If she says ‘yes’ but can’t afford it, reassure her that you are able to help out. You can ask your bridesmaids if they can chip in.
This isn’t an unrealistic expectation, and no bridesmaid should feel surprised as this is typically part of their role in the wedding — spoil the bride!
A bachelorette party doesn’t have to be the wildest in the history of mankind.
It can be a lovely brunch with your bridesmaids and your closest friends, cocktails at your favorite bar or a wine tasting at a local winery.
Keep in mind that through the bachelorette party you have a chance to bond with your bridesmaids.
And maybe see a half-naked male dancer. Hmmm…
Ladies In Charge
Usually, the Maid of Honor hosts the bachelorette party and the Mother of the Bride hosts the bridal shower.
Of course there is no rule, anybody can host! (Except Aunt Betty who thinks that mimosas are some kind of insect.)
These events typically require some assistance from the rest of the group.
The bridesmaids are typically more than ready to lend a helping hand with the planning, suggest bridal shower games and help with the bill.
Authentic Bride Guide Tip: I knew my MOH was planning my bachelorette party, so I asked my mom if she would be interested in hosting my bridal shower. She was more than thrilled! I gave her some ideas for a “Brunch and Bubbly” theme, and she took care of the rest!
Trust your mothers, they will make sure it turns out beautiful like mine did!
Party? No Thanks, I'm Good.
Not every bride wants a bachelorette party.
And that’s OK.
Even if the Maid of Honor offers to throw a celebration before the big day, some brides don’t want the extra attention.
If you are a Maid of Honor, make sure that she is really sure about skipping the party then move on with the rest of the wedding planning.
If you still want to do something nice for the bride, you can arrange mani-pedis or brunch for the two of you.
It's My Party and I'll Cry If I Want To!
Some brides are more relaxed and some other total control freaks aka bridezillas.
And the latter category must have control over everything, even the bachelorette party.
Ladies, please don’t be one of those…
If you want to throw your own bridal shower or bachelorette party, that doesn’t mean you are a control freak.
Just make sure to inform the guests you’re planning to invite, that you’ll be making arrangements yourself.
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